Hate is a disease you catch from others who are already infected. It is contagious, virulent, and can be fatal unless the infection is caught in time.
Here is a list of symptoms:
- Obsession with an person, event, or idea, to the extent that you cannot let go of it even when you try. Usually accompanied by a desire for revenge, “justice”, or for something you want from the person (or powers-that-be),.
- The conviction that you are completely right and justified, and that the other party is absolutely wrong. Your attitude becomes self-righteous in the extreme.
- You seek out other people who will agree with you and support the energy with which you have been infected; a lack of tolerance for anyone who disagrees with you. In fact, this disease almost compels you to infect others, even if you sometimes feel guilty for doing so. (Usually, however, the infection prevents you from feeling guilt simultaneously with the hatred.)
- Usually accompanied by frequent,trong rushes of anger and/or rage, either topically initiated or from random stimuli.
How does a person become infected?
- In every case, the infection begins when one comes into contact with someone who already has the disease.
- The disease can be transmitted through direct contact; through listening to infected speech over any kind of media; through watching an activity that involves infected people acting out of their diseased condition; and through receiving psychic energy directed by a person or group that has previously been infected,
- Seeing, hearing, or witnessing diseased actions caused by individuals or groups who have been infected.
What can be done if one discovers exposure or an active infection?
As with most diseases, the earlier it is discovered the better the prognosis for recovery.
In all cases, however, the patient must take active steps to remove the infection through diligent efforts and repeated application of antidotes — as well as to avoid future infections and the people who carry the disease and spread it.
In extreme cases, outside intervention by professionals may be required.
Some experts believe that the antidote to hate is love; but infected individuals who have recovered state that smaller doses of subtler antidotes may work much better. “Love” is often too difficult to administer in sufficient dosages to a person infected by hate; an infected person often seems unable to digest even small doses of love when administered.
Instead, here are some recommended antidotes to try:
- Kindness, for oneself and others. Even deeply infected individuals are often susceptible to simple kindness. Be prepared to administer freely and often.
- Compassion, for oneself and others. Realize that every person carries a heavy load, even if you can’t see what it is. You may be infected with hate and still be able to tolerate a small dose of compassion for a person or animal in pain, which can begin to accelerate the healing process.
- Respect. Infected people often identify with groups of similarly-affected people. Once anyone within an infected group begins to recover, the group may feel threatened. But once an individual has been accepted as a member of an infected group, the group may allow a certain amount of recovery before attempting to reject the recovering individual.
- Humor. What makes people laugh has an unusual capacity to completely disable the hate virus, for reasons as yet unknown. One of the most powerful tools you may find lies in anything that can induce laughter, especially if it is prolonged. While a person’s own sense of humor may vary widely, most silly movies, videos, audios, or comic books can begin the process. In this case, the more the merrier! Apply liberally and often, for best results. Suggested sites appropriate for all ages include: Cute Overload, ICanHazCheezburger, and YouTubeFunnyVideos..
At no time should interventions attempt to match the extreme energy levels that a person infected with hate is capable of demonstrating. Raising the volume will not help you reach the infected person faster. Instead, it is important to approach the individual with a calm, gentle attitude and a friendly outlook. Attempting to argue with or engage an infected individual in a rational manner generally results in failure, because the disease operates almost exclusively within an emotional atmosphere; logic isn’t spoken there and can’t be understood. Don’t try.
The way to recovery lies with reaching the individual’s heart. While this may seem impossible during active infections, in fact it is the only way the person can recover. Do not lose hope!
Often there will be a brief “window of opportunity” where the infected person can be made aware that there is an active disease process underway, which demands antidotal methods at the earliest opportunity if there is to be any hope of recovery. In such moments, one might calmly state things such as:
“Did you know that hate is a disease?”
Interrupting the hating process at opportune, neutral moments, is often the best course of action .
A word of caution to those who are observing an active infection: it is always best to take personal precautions to avoid becoming infected oneself while attempting to intervene in someone else’s disease process; be prepared and take countermeasures to prevent your own infection.
As mentioned earlier, avoiding infected people is the most reliable way to prevent becoming infected. If avoidance is not possible, then by all means surround yourself with positive images, media, and messages as much as humanly possible. You may be the infected person’s only chance!
While the disease of hate is rampant, it is by no means hopeless. It is, however, dependent upon those who remain healthy to take measures to prevent its spread and to take advantage of any and all healing opportunities that may arise.
Please share this information widely, to assist with the world wide effort to combat and overcome the deadly disease of hate.
Thank you.
Nancy, I feel your blog can be a “witness” view of the pathology of hate. Tribe mentalities of hatred passed down from generation to generation can be seen in troubled areas of our world. The tragedy is that innocent
children are taught to hate for tradition sake and nothing else.
And yes, we all can use the medicine of kindness, compassion, humor, respect and may I add- even reverence for the inner essence of every person no matter how much of a jerk they appear to be.
This is not just “high road” talking; this is a key to the survival of planet earth and all of us on it. We can’t afford to be playing these “hate”games anymore. Wake up- take a look and see where hate can lead you- great suffering that need not happen. We are meant for joy.
Everyone, take the antidote for hate- you know how to do this better than you think. And if not, get someone to help pull you our of the mud.
Thank you Dee, for your well considered points. And thank you for spreading the word. The more people who take this seriously, the sooner we will stop spreading this disease 🙂
Great post. There actually is a study that shows that many folks MOVE to towns that mimic their bias and hate…. (http://www.adjuvancy.com/wordpress/http:/www.adjuvancy.com/wordpress/sins-fathers/)
We need to work hard to insure that this sort of disease is not communicated from parent to child- the most common modality for this epidemic…
Roy, thank you for this valuable addition to the discussion. Parent-child transmittal is indeed one of the most problematic areas in prevention. I will be interested to learn about effective remediation for that, if you have any resources or suggestions.
Absolutely brilliant piece, Nancy.
Thanks Ali. As you know, having great relationships depends upon emotional maturity. If a person has become infected with hate, all of their relationships will suffer. Hate has no place in a sane world — or in a satisfying life 🙂